How to Make Your Man Last Longer in Bed

Written by: Anka Grzywacz - Sexologist And Certified Sex Coach

You know the feeling. It's date night, you're having a fun time with your partner. Things get intimate and … it all ends too soon, leaving you both unsatisfied. The good news is that you can learn how to make a guy last longer.  

How Long Can He Last in Bed? 

First, let's do a quick reality check. Many couples think they have a problem with premature ejaculation when they don't. Intercourse lasts a few minutes on average, not hours. An international survey revealed that men aged 18 to 30 last approximately 6.5 minutes. For older guys (over 51 years) average penetration time is 4.3 minutes.  

According to sex therapists, premature ejaculation happens when a man ejaculates sooner than he and his partner would wish. It’s a common problem, with one in four men experiencing PE at some point in their lives.  

But there's a catch, especially for heterosexual couples. The orgasm gap is real, which means women usually take longer to experience orgasm than men. So, while three minutes may be sufficient for your guy, they may not be for you. 

How To Make Your Man Last Longer? 

Most men are sensitive about their sexual performance. If a man can’t control his ejaculation, he may want to solve it all by himself. Some men are so ashamed that they won’t talk to their partners at all.  

Your role as his partner is to tell him that it’s OK to have bedroom challenges, and you’re in this together. Plus, you can always have a few tricks up your sleeve to help him last longer.  

Play Before You Play 

This one will serve you both well, especially if you’re a heterosexual couple. Instead of taking the usual route – arousal, intercourse, and orgasm (at least for him) – enjoy longer erotic play and bring each other to climax without penetration. You can enjoy sensual touch, oral stimulation, and mutual masturbation.  

The idea behind this is that men have a refractory period.  

It means they need to rest after orgasm, before they can get hard and ejaculate again. And the second time he gets aroused is usually less intense, and he can last longer during intercourse.  

An extra perk is that you will get all the attention you need. If you have one orgasm from oral sex or a sex toy on your clitoris, you’re more likely to come again during penetrative intercourse. 

Rubber Is Your Friend 

Most men don’t like using condoms because they dull sensations. But with premature ejaculation, that side effect is exactly what he might need to last longer! Modern condoms are very thin, so they won’t reduce his pleasure too much, but you’ll gain time to enjoy the most intimate connection.  

Slow Him Down 

Some guys struggle with premature ejaculation because they are used to going fast. They developed this pattern in their teenage years, when they had to masturbate in secret, worrying that someone might see them.  

Encourage your lover to take it slow, especially at the start of intercourse. He should pace his thrusting and find a pleasant rhythm that lets him last longer. You can also alternate movements – first he moves for a minute or two, then pauses and lets you do the work.  

Hold It Tight 

There’s an effective hands-on trick called the squeeze technique that you can test. When you notice your partner is getting very excited, squeeze his penis with your fingers, between the head and the shaft.  

This method works best for experienced couples – you or your partner must recognize when he’s about to reach the point of no return. This is a state when he can no longer stop the ejaculation. The downside is that to do the squeeze, you need to interrupt lovemaking. Not an ideal situation, especially if you were about to come.  

Take Some Pressure Off 

One of the biggest reasons men can’t control their climax is anxiety. Your partner wants to prove himself as a skillful lover and sometimes that tension can show up as premature ejaculation.  

If you think about it, it’s a lot for a man – that feeling that his sexual stamina is necessary for your satisfaction. Ensure him that even if sex doesn’t last as long as you both would wish, it’s OK and there are many sensual things you can do together after he ejaculates.  

Avoid Certain Positions  

You may have heard that sexual positions can help you get pregnant or experience a G-spot orgasm. But not all positions are suitable for everyone. Men with premature ejaculation should avoid certain configurations, for example: 

• Doggy style. This position puts him in control. He can quickly forget himself and start thrusting vigorously. Plus, he has an amazing view of your backside, which increases his arousal.  
• Missionary position. This sexual classic also gives the man freedom of movement, and he can quickly go from 0 to 100.  
• Seashell position. This one is similar to missionary but allows him to go even deeper. The woman lies on her back, her legs raised as high as possible, supporting them with her hands. The intense sensation can quickly fire up his orgasm.  

Wearable Device to Make Him Last Longer 

What if you could help your man last longer without resorting to complicated tricks and techniques? Now it’s possible with a small, wearable device called in2.  

You can help him apply it on his perineum (that’s the area between his genitals and anus) and switch it on when you’re both ready. The device will produce gentle stimulation of his pelvic floor muscles to delay ejaculation.  

Get your in2 here and learn how easy it can be to last longer in bed.