Techniques and Strategies for Delaying Orgasm

Written by: The in2 Team - By Virility Medical 
 

Sex—especially the penis-in-vagina part—does not have to last a really long time to be good. Still, many men worry that they don’t last long enough for their own satisfaction or the satisfaction of their partner. If you or your partner are concerned that you climax too soon, there are things you can do to have sex last longer.  

This article offers information on effective techniques that can help you last longer in bed. Try one or all of them and see what helps you take control over ejaculation.  

Masturbate First. We sometimes think of masturbation as a substitute for the “real” thing and assume people with partners don’t need to bother, but that’s not true. If you feel you’re coming too soon, solo sex can be great. It can teach you about your body’s own response cycle and you can use that information to delay your orgasms in the future. Use masturbation as an opportunity to practice all of the techniques mentioned in this article.

You can also try masturbating before you plan to have sex. Releasing the sexual tension before sex (whether that’s earlier in the day, right before your date, or in the bathroom while your partner is getting ready for bed), can help you last longer during the main event. Remember, most men have a refractory period after orgasm during which they can’t get excited enough to climax during sex. You can use this to your advantage by masturbating first. 

Relax and Distract. If you’ve experienced premature ejaculation in the past, you may be worried that it will happen again. Unfortunately, worrying about it can make it more likely. Start by relaxing and taking the pressure off your performance. Breathe deeply or visualize yourself in a calm place like a forest or a beach before sex to calm your body and mind.

If the pleasure starts getting too intense during sex, try diverting your attention for a few seconds. Think about something not sexy like work or what you’re going to eat for dinner. Taking yourself mentally out of the action for a moment can help you avoid ejaculating too soon. You don’t have to tell your partner you’re doing it, but as soon as you feel ready, refocus on her and what you’re doing together.  

The Start-Stop Technique (Edging). Sometimes thinking about something other than sex isn’t enough because the sensations are just too strong and ejaculation feels imminent. With this method, you temporarily stop sexual activity by pulling out, moving your hand, or asking your partner to take a pause.  Practice this technique with your partner or alone during masturbation. When you feel yourself getting close to orgasming, stop whatever you’re doing. Take a few deep breaths and try to relax your body. When the urge passes, resume sexual activity. Repeat this step as many times as you’d like before allowing yourself to ejaculate when you’re ready.

This technique is sometimes called edging and people use it not just to delay orgasm but to make orgasms feel more intense when they do happen. If you’re going to try this with your partner, be honest with her ahead of time so she understands your worries and your goals.  

The Squeeze Technique. This is very similar to edging and can also be practiced with a partner or during masturbation. When you feel yourself getting close to climaxing, squeeze the area between the base of the penis and the shaft with your thumb and forefinger Keep the pressure on for a few seconds and the urge to ejaculate should pass.

Like with edging, you can do this as many times as you like before letting yourself come when you’re ready. This technique also requires an honest conversation with your partner before sex so that she knows what to expect.  

Pelvic Floor Exercises. A few years ago, everyone was telling women that they had to do their Kegels—exercises of the pelvic floor muscles that can help women during orgasm and childbirth. It turns out that Kegels aren’t just for people with vaginas. Men can benefit from them too. 

The next time you have to pee, try stopping the flow of urine midstream. The muscles you engage to do this are the same ones you should be working on. Tighten them and hold for a few seconds before letting go. Then do some reps like you would at the gym. Tighten, hold, release. Try to gradually increase the hold time.  

Regular practice of pelvic floor exercises can strengthen these muscles, and over time this can give you more control over ejaculation. You can also use Kegels in the moment by contracting the pelvic floor muscles when you feel like you’re going to climax. The urge may pass.    

If these techniques feel cumbersome or difficult, you could let our unique technology do the work for you. The in2 device is applied to the perineum (the area between your genitals and your anus) and can be put on up to an hour before sex. When you’re ready, just switch it on. The device provides gentle stimulation of the pelvic floor muscles (the ones you use to Kegel) and is clinically proven to delay ejaculation.