Sexy Gifts for Her

Written by: The in2 Team - By Virility Medical 
 

Giving presents is a great way to show our partner that we’re thinking of them and want to make them happy. While we’ve grown to expect presents for special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries, it can be even more exciting when your partner comes home with a beautifully wrapped box on an otherwise normal workday.  

If that present is a little sexy, it can show your partner you were thinking about her and add some buzz to your sex life (quite literally, if we’re talking about a new sex toy).  

What’s a sexy gift? 

 Any gift can be sexy if it makes you and your partner think about the sex that you’ve already had and get ideas for future fun.  

Some gifts are obviously about sex like a new vibrator or a bottle of lube, others are more naughty like flavored massage oil that hints at your plan to rub it all over her and lick it off slowly. Hitting romantic notes with flowers, candles, or a weekend getaway can also be sexy.  

Why give her a sexy gift? 

 Like any present, a sexy gift can remind your partner that you love and appreciate them, but unlike the gifts she gets from other people, this one also says, “I want you” and “I want you to feel pleasure.” These are great messages whether you’re just starting out or have been together for years.   

Benefits of sexy gifts 

Giving a sexy present will make you both think about sex. This can help you celebrate the wonderful sex life you already have and imagine ways to make it better. It can also be helpful if either you or your partner is worried that your sex life is in a bit of a rut.  

You can try to pick a present that addresses the source of that rut whether its lingerie to make her feel sexy, a deck of cards that introduces new positions, or a G-spot vibrator designed to help her orgasm.   

You do have to be careful, however, that your present doesn’t come across as criticism or an attempt to get your partner to do something she’s said no to in the past.    

6 Sexy Gifts for Her (and You) to Enjoy    

 You know your partner best, but here are some gift ideas to get your started.  

• Lingerie. Silk, lace, or maybe leather; the right lingerie can put her in the right mood. Get her something that feels pretty or naughty (or both). While this is obviously a present for both of you, keep her style in mind by choosing colors and fabrics you know she likes. Don’t guess on the size, check the tag on her bra while she’s in the bathroom or ask her best friend. Playful Promises has a wide variety of styles and sizes.  
• Massage. We all hold tension in our muscles, let her know you plan to rub away her stress by giving her a bottle of good massage oil. Or try a massage candle. These can set the mood during and after dinner because as they melt, the wax turns into massage oil that you can rub on each other. 
• Lube. A good bottle of lube can be a way better present than a good bottle of wine. The slippery stuff prevents chafing and irritation and allows fingers (yours or hers) to glide gently across her clitoris. Silicone lubes are good for vaginal and anal sex, but clean up can be a little more difficult. Water-based lubes are best for sex toy use and wash off well, but can get dry too fast. Shop around for a favorite; just remember that you can’t use oil-based lube with condoms or silicone-based lube with most sex toys.  
• Toys. There are so many sex toys available for women these days. This can feel overwhelming but also means you have a great chance of finding something you’ll both love. If she’s someone who has never owned a sex toy before start with a simple vibrator that stays outside and stimulates her clitoris. If she’s got an advanced degree in vibrology (no, it’s not a field of study, but maybe it should be), go for something more complicated like a rabbit that stimulates her G-spot from the inside while also giving her direct clitoral stimulation. Or choose something designed for the two of you like a remote-control bullet vibe that she wears but you operate. Ann Summers has a lot of toys for you to choose from.  
• Games. Lighten the mood and get new ideas with sexy games. You could go with an old favorite like Truth or Dare or Never Have I Ever, try a deck of Kama Sutra cards that offers new positions, or give her a set of dice that tells you which body part to pay attention to next. Check out Ann Summers’ selection of games and other gifts. 
• in2 Device. Give her the gift of longer sex with this wearable device. It was scientifically engineered to enhance your ability to contract your pelvic floor muscles and is clinically proven to delay ejaculation giving you more time to explore each other. It comes in low and high intensity. Sure, you wear this present, but trust us, she will enjoy it too. Try it now. 

Choosing the Right Sexy Gift for Her 

 We all want our presents to be received with an “OMG, I’ve always wanted this” and not an “OK, but did you get a gift receipt?” Giving a sexy gift—even to an established partner—can come with an added fear of rejection, but we’re confident you can find the right one.  

The most important thing is to remember this present is for her. Sure, the end goal might be for you to have sex with her, but to be considered a nice gesture, the gift itself has to be for her. 

Here are some tips to help you choose a great sexy gift for her:   

• Know her style. Just because you’ve imagined your partner in full dominatrix-style fetish wear does not mean she’s going to feel comfortable putting on a lot of leather. Think of what she wears every day; is it ultra-feminine, purely utilitarian, or a little tomboy? We’re not saying you have to stick with something she already owns, but don’t stray too far.  
• Get personal. Your partner should know that you picked this present out just for her as soon as she opens it. Use the present to remind her how well you know her by choosing her favorite color, picking a scent she loves, or shopping at a store she visits frequently.  
• Nudge gently. One of the goals of this present may be to shake up your sex life and get you out of a rut. We get that and totally approve. Just be careful not to push too hard. A sex toy is a great present, but if she’s told you she doesn’t want butt play, giving her anal beads will send a very wrong message.   
• Ask for help. There’s no shame in bringing in her best friend or sister to help you choose a style or make sure you get the right size on the first try.  

If you get it right, giving a present can be even more fun than getting one. But don’t stress, even if the gift isn’t perfect, the thought really does count. She’ll know that you’re thinking of her and your sex life. And, if she’s not completely happy with what’s in the box, return it and go shopping together for something even sexier.